Kanye Rant
Warning: This is my "Kanye" rant lol
As a single Christian woman I have heard all of the advice about what to look for in a mate, who to date, who not to date, how the courting process should be, how a woman should be pursued and all that other good stuff. The biggest hang-up I have about all of that wonderful stuff is really what is a man supposed to do that "proves" he's a godly man? I hate the dreaded conversation where people ask you about your boo and you are asked to give them "proof" that he's a suitable candidate. I find myself fumbling because I'm honestly just simply bad at answering questions on the spot. I need time to process the questions and be able to write it out.
Here's what I think according to what the Bible says:
Everyone who accepts Christ, is promised to be sealed by the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:13). The fruit of the Spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, longsuffering, faithfulness, and self-control according to Galatians 5:22 & 23. The greatest of those is love and its Biblical definition is found in 1 Corinthians 13 as patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud, not dishonoring of others, not self seeking, not easily angered, keeping no record of wrong, not delighting in evil, rejoicing with the truth and always protecting, trusting, hoping, and persevering. Evidence of a godly person should be these things and efforts to love in this way. So why do we add so many of our own requirements? If that person has evidence of those simple things why is it a crime to commit to a relationship with a person like that whether or not they fit your standard or anyone else's standard of who a godly, Christian is. With those qualities he/she has the foundation of what it takes to grow into the person God ultimately will have him or her to be. So what's the big deal?!
And my thing is, I'm not some new believer who is not firm in her convictions and I'm not afraid to speak out in a relationship if something doesn't seem right. I will bring up things that bother me and I expect the person to do the same because I believe relationships are about becoming better people, better Christ followers. If we are adding to each other, not trying to complete or deplete then we're good; I honestly don't see the harm in that.
As a single Christian woman I have heard all of the advice about what to look for in a mate, who to date, who not to date, how the courting process should be, how a woman should be pursued and all that other good stuff. The biggest hang-up I have about all of that wonderful stuff is really what is a man supposed to do that "proves" he's a godly man? I hate the dreaded conversation where people ask you about your boo and you are asked to give them "proof" that he's a suitable candidate. I find myself fumbling because I'm honestly just simply bad at answering questions on the spot. I need time to process the questions and be able to write it out.
Here's what I think according to what the Bible says:
Everyone who accepts Christ, is promised to be sealed by the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:13). The fruit of the Spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, longsuffering, faithfulness, and self-control according to Galatians 5:22 & 23. The greatest of those is love and its Biblical definition is found in 1 Corinthians 13 as patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud, not dishonoring of others, not self seeking, not easily angered, keeping no record of wrong, not delighting in evil, rejoicing with the truth and always protecting, trusting, hoping, and persevering. Evidence of a godly person should be these things and efforts to love in this way. So why do we add so many of our own requirements? If that person has evidence of those simple things why is it a crime to commit to a relationship with a person like that whether or not they fit your standard or anyone else's standard of who a godly, Christian is. With those qualities he/she has the foundation of what it takes to grow into the person God ultimately will have him or her to be. So what's the big deal?!
And my thing is, I'm not some new believer who is not firm in her convictions and I'm not afraid to speak out in a relationship if something doesn't seem right. I will bring up things that bother me and I expect the person to do the same because I believe relationships are about becoming better people, better Christ followers. If we are adding to each other, not trying to complete or deplete then we're good; I honestly don't see the harm in that.
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